What is special about Vietnamese women?
It’s essential to approach discussions about specific groups of people, such as Vietnamese women, with sensitivity and respect. Generalizations about any group can perpetuate stereotypes and overlook the diversity and individuality within that group. Like any other country, Vietnam is home to a wide range of individuals with unique personalities, backgrounds, and experiences.
That being said, Vietnamese culture is rich and diverse, shaped by its history, traditions, and values. Like people from any cultural background, Vietnamese women can exhibit various qualities, skills, and characteristics.
Some aspects that are often appreciated in Vietnamese culture include:
- Family Values: Vietnamese culture often strongly emphasizes family and community ties. Family is considered necessary, and there is often a sense of mutual support and respect among family members.
- Hardworking and Resilient: Many Vietnamese individuals, both men and women, are known for their work ethic and resilience. Historical and cultural factors, including periods of adversity, may influence this.
- Cultural Traditions: Vietnamese culture has a rich history with traditional values, customs, and rituals. Women may play essential roles in preserving and passing on these artistic traditions.
- Educational Attainment: Vietnamese women, like men, have made academic strides. A growing number of women are pursuing higher education and entering various professions.
- Fashion and Style: Vietnamese culture has a vibrant and diverse fashion scene. Women may express themselves through traditional ao dai dresses or embrace modern and international fashion trends.
Recognizing that individual personalities, interests, and experiences vary widely within any cultural or national group is crucial. Stereotyping or making assumptions about people based on their nationality or gender can oversimplify and perpetuate biases.
It’s always recommended to approach individuals with an open mind and appreciate their uniqueness. If you’re interested in learning about Vietnamese culture, consider exploring it through respectful and inclusive means, such as engaging with cultural events, literature, or firsthand experiences.
What is special about Vietnamese women?
Vietnamese women are like diamonds. Diamonds are precious stones known for their combination of beauty and brilliance, resilience and strength, and are formed under extreme pressure. So are Vietnamese women.
Their traits emerge during their struggle against the many social and economic challenges they face daily. The result is something entirely more stunning than a piece of jewelry.
Instead, the product is a unique human being who is hardworking and talented, has “grit,” is devoted to her family, is charming and beautiful, and is good at managing money.
Hardworking and Talented
Somewhere along the line, Vietnamese women learn the invaluable lesson that effort = intelligence. It could be their parents’ focus on education or the social pressure to achieve.
It could be a byproduct of having so few economic resources that trying harder is the only choice. Whatever it is, Vietnamese girls learn at an early age that if they want to succeed, they’ve got to put in the sweat hours.
A typical school day in Vietnam is shorter than in America. However, the students are fully expected (and do) to study on their own and with the help of their parents (usually their mother) at home.
This sort of effort-based approach to learning allows people to develop their talents. Add a healthy dose of competitiveness in Vietnamese society, and you get many highly talented women who will not let obstacles or setbacks stop them from achieving their goals.
I have two cousins (both girls) in medical school. They grew up in a trailer park and, statistically, have no business excelling like they did in their studies. Except they are 100% Vietnamese, and that means they were armed with the sort of mindset and values that come along with the Vietnamese culture.
Let me remember, Vietnamese women are the best cooks. And I do mean the best. This comes partly from their talent and approach to learning and partly from the fact that Vietnam is a tropical region with many mouth-watering ingredients that grow like weeds in my garden. Want to experience the best food in the world? Then, go to Vietnam. Want the very next best thing?
Then go to your Vietnamese girlfriend’s house when her family is having a party. Bún thịt nướng, phở, bánh mì, cơm, bánh xèo, gỏi cuốn, chả giò, thịt kho, cá chiên, canh…oh so many kinds of canh… the list just goes on and on.
To get your tastebuds to understand:
(Bún thịt nướng chả giò)
Vietnamese Women Have Grit
Grit is a mixture of toughness, courage, refusal to quit in the face of difficulty, and willingness to endure hardship when necessary. Vietnamese women have this in abundance.
This is y due partly to their mindset, which they learn from an early age. But it is also partly because they face incredible hardships in life that citizens of first-world countries have typically never had to face.
Up until 1995, the country was “closed” to the West. The economy was terrible, which meant everyone was poor—like destitute poor. Babies were not born at hospitals but were held by the local midwife—just another lady who happened to be experienced in birthing, and no epidurals were available.
Why can’t I watch Netflix on Zoom via screen share?
What if the mother didn’t produce enough milk for the child?
There was no access to the formula. The answer was rice water—I’ll explain this to those worldwide who do not know about rice. When you cook it, first you wash it. When you clean it, cloudy water comes off, and this water has some vitamins, though it doesn’t have many calories. Not ideal, certainly, but it was all they had.
Another contributing factor is that Vietnamese men so often tend to be under-performers. Alcoholism is rampant. But, then again, men generally perform poorly under authoritarian regimes.
The women are left in charge of the family. I’ll revisit this later, but for now, I know that Vietnamese women shoulder many burdens and, as such, have grown an uncommon resilience.
Now, here’s something else to show you the character of Vietnamese women. They all ride motorbikes. You might think that’s no big deal, especially after realizing that the motorbikes are puny little 100cc or 150cc things, no real bikes like the bad boys ride. But some things need to be considered. Traffic is not the same in Vietnam as it is in the States.
Cars, busses, and 18-wheelers will pull out in front of you, cut you off, merge into your lane, forcing you to brake or to be run off the road, ride your tail honking incessantly if you’re in the center of your lane, and will use the slightest margin to nudge you out of their way, often passing within inches of your handlebars.
Driving in Vietnam is dangerous and not for the weak-hearted.
I took this picture by the way. This is not “in the city” but is a typical highway in Vietnam. Look at how these two ladies on their motorbikes are being passed on both sides simultaneously by two large trucks. Those trucks are perhaps a few feet in either direction from them and traveling at around 30–40 mph.
Here is another angle of the same intersection so you can have a better feel for what’s going on:
Here is another intersection a little later:
Notice how that truck turns in front of the other traffic forcing them to brake. General rule in Vietnam: motorcyclist beware. And this is something Vietnamese women face every single day.
But there’s more than just that. While other nation’s women may have the luxury of a car, Vietnamese women have to make do with their motorbikes. How do you take four kids somewhere on one motorbike? Or how do you carry a bunch of whatever you might need to carry? We have back seats and trunks and whatnot. Not so on a motorbike.
This image I pulled from google. Trust me, it’s real. I see this kind of stuff everyday. Here is one I took from the safety of my car (I know I’m a hypocrite) of a woman making her daily morning commute to the market:
So what’s the bottom line with all these pics of girls on motorbikes? Vietnamese women are tough as nails. They face situations on a daily basis that would cause grown men in other countries to mess their pants. But they’re more than that…
Vietnamese Women are Devoted to their Family
All women have that familial instinct, the one that drives them to protect and nurture their children and love their parents and siblings and extended family. But for Vietnamese women, this instinct is on overdrive. Vietnamese women protect their children. Of course they protect them from outside dangers but they also protect children from themselves. They know how to raise children to understand morality, duty, discipline, love and respect.
Tongue lashings are quick and severe if a child misbehaves. And if the transgression is severe, a spanking is the immediate result. They absolutely love their children and are willing to endure the momentary pain that a parent experiences when disciplining their children because they know their children must be taught right from wrong and how to behave correctly.
At the same time, when they become the wife of a man they will care for him, work alongside him, support him in his endeavors, and act as a partner to help him support their family (as opposed to expecting him to do it all in his own). Vietnamese women are willing to work hard jobs, dirty jobs, or any job that will sport their family. I have seen women construction workers throwing stones right beside the men, women herding cattle, women driving trucks, women farmers (see pic) and of course all Americans know about the women VC that fought just as hard as them men did.
I pulled this image from google again. This is backbreaking work and these women do it every season, year in and year out.
Yet there is something cultural about Vietnamese woman that other women typically don’t have. In southern Vietnam there has been a long tradition of strong women and women have historically had a more prominent role in society than in many other cultures. This could be a factor in creating such strong and robust women.
This could also be a factor in creating the dynamic that I see in Vietnamese culture, and that is the revolution of the family around the mother. It is true that children take the surname of the father, like in Western countries. However, I find it is typically the mother and her sisters to be the central core of the family. The keystone, if you will. Vietnamese women are family-centric. They will always put their family first.
Vietnamese Women are Charming and Beautiful
In my slightly biased opinion, Vietnamese women are the most beautiful women on Earth. Part of this is due to their amazing physical feature and part of it is due to their inherent charm. They are demure yet confident. Strong yet feminine. Bold yet respectful. They combine the allure of a purring cat with the prowess of a tiger. There are some 40-million Vietnamese women on Earth right now, and the 40-million men that get to marry them are the luckiest men alive.
As they say, a picture is worth a thousand words:
Vietnamese girls are witty, seductive, joyful, and clever. They enjoy dating and can be both serious or playful. At the same time they have self-respect and won’t waste their time with losers.
Now that this Is starting to sound like one of those East-Marries-West sites, I think my point is made. Moving on…
Vietnamese Women are Good at Managing Money
Vietnamese women, being family centric, are not prone to blowing money on shopping trips or other frivolousness. Typically, it is the woman that handles the money in Vietnamese households. She saves for rainy days, gives kids money to buy breakfast on their way to school, pays the bills, and saves toward goals the family might have.
Vietnamese women have to be good with money. When a family buys a house in Vietnam is is generally done by paying cash. Bank loans are rare and are only now starting to become something other than rare. So that 100k piece of land the couple bought was paid for with cash, a good portion of which the wife saved from working over the years (Another part she borrowed from her family or her husbands family). Make no mistake, it is the woman that is making sure the family has enough for today and is still saving for tomorrow.
When you see Vietnamese women immigrate to Western countries and become successful businesswoman this is why. They have an aversion to wasting money and are always looking for a family business to run. It’s in their blood.
This is only a partial list of what makes Vietnamese women special. They are very special and deserve recognition for their hard work and the hardships they endure on behalf of their family. Thanks everyone for reading.
I beg to differ from the other two. I will compare Vietnamese women with most women from my country. My wife is Vietnamese, by the way. Below are some of the most outstanding qualities of a typical Vietnamese (at the time of writing, as values change with time):
Resilient
I do not know why; maybe the men are all douche, but there are so many single mothers in Vietnam! They must pick up the burden of putting food on the table for the family and caring for the children.
I know a lady whose husband has gone missing and left her with two daughters. Both her parents do nothing but gamble, eat, smoke, and sleep. She worked two jobs from 7 am to 3 pm as a salesperson and as a waitress at a bar from 7 pm to 1 am.
During the war, men were needed on the battlefield, and women just took over the vacuum left by men. Someone once told me that women shoulder 60% of the Vietnamese economy.
Men traditionally eat and sleep after they get married. This is not a joke. Numerous girlfriends repeatedly offered me that after our marriage, I get to stay at home and not be required to work.
Family-Centric
The typical Vietnamese woman is extremely family-centric. Her life evolves around the family, where the husband is at the core, and the children surround the core. She wraps around them.
Vietnamese women will sacrifice themselves for the family, placing their husbands above their children, followed by their children, followed by their parents and siblings, and finally, themselves last.
Others
I will not go into silky dark hair, facial features, etc. The Vietnamese women are just gorgeous in every aspect.
Vietnamese women are good-looking because the culture and geography of Vietnam have been influenced by both East Asian and Southeast Asian, as well as just a dash of Western culture.
Mixed blood is common in Vietnam, and the authentic, pure Vietnamese before Chinese influence is gorgeous, too.
If you go to Vietnam and check out the minority ethnic groups, they have an unusual loveliness to them that cannot easily be found in other parts of the world.
From my perspective, relying on my Thai & Vietnamese moms, each had her own good & bad things like others’. But something special in my view is her intelligence to balance her family & business, her endurance to survive all difficulties, even in war, with her spirit on behalf of her mother & protector without any help from her husband, and the final obvious things: royalty of her family and food creation gen by gen.
What is your opinion of Vietnamese girls?
I have known one for over six months now. She moved from Vietnam to the US more than two years ago, working in a nail salon. She is wonderful. She is way smarter than she wants me to think.
She is hardworking and “lazy” at the same time, which is difficult to explain, but it can be related more to being tired than lazy. She took many months before trusting me and starting to open up. I still have no idea what she wants from me, what we are for each other, etc… (give vague answers…)
She is highly precious in my eyes.
Edit: it’s been two months since I wrote that message. And this girl is still the sunshine of my life. We are still dating, sharing emotions and little moments, or just smiling. I saw her beautiful smile every day, and she cared for me when I got cold by making me ginger tea and more. I’m unsure what is going on with her, but being part of her life is a total pleasure. Her name is a Vietnamese princess name, and she is one.
Still dealing with this girl (Trân) daily. I genuinely love you; I have known her for almost 11 months. We are still just friends; I’m not pushing it and taking it as it is.
I’ve become a more muscular man over the months by knowing her and her going me to the top; I still have moments of weakness, but I try to overcome them. We eat once a week (not today, unfortunately) and try some new cuisine, etc. But from my experience, she is truly a little gem.
I am updating this post again. Such a long ride with that girl! It will be two years soon. I’ve grown a lot since I got to know her, lost over 60lbs, became a lot more confident, and as crazy as it sounds, I focus a lot more on me and my goals than on her (I was definitely a simple when I meet her for the first time).
I cried a lot until maybe April 2020, getting myself down, but I had to think about my actions and grow from that). I would like to update this post to get a view of that experience.
One thing I should add to the list is that we try a lot of Asian cuisines, and I like that! On another point, she remembers A LOT of tiny details. I find it crazy. She loves her family (even with all the downsides) and helps them as much as possible. She has a lot of respect for the older generations and has that entrepreneurial mindset that I love in her.
So I know it’s not about Vietnamese girls in general, but that girl changed my life without knowing it.
In the rural mountains of Vietnam,
More and more young girls disappear from their homes. Many of them crossed the border and were sold to the Chinese as wives for the price of a buffalo.
At eight in the evening, on a hot summer day, the quiet, timid girl Tien left the house and went to spend the night at his cousin’s house. At least, the 16-year-old child told his family this way. In fact, because she didn’t want to get married, she was planning to leave the village. I hope that her cousin will help her find a job, so she quietly slipped out of the house.
Almost two years later, when she came back here again, she had suffered a horror experience beyond the imagination of most young people. The cousin she trusted didn’t find a job for her, but sold her to a trafficker who specialized in human trafficking to China, and he sold her as a “Vietnamese bride”. Since then, Tien has become a member of that frustrating statistic: more and more poor Vietnamese girls are sold to China and forced to marry.
Tien realized early that something was wrong. “I gave him all the money and ID,” Tien recalled. “He told me, ‘We are going to find a job. Since you want to leave that village, I will take you away.'”
Her cousin had promised to take her to a big city in the south, but they flew north to Hanoi, the capital. They changed cars in the capital and Tien fell asleep. When she woke up, she was already in China, and her cousin abandoned her and sold her to a trafficker.
Soon, Tien learned that the trafficker had found her husband for her. Although a fierce conflict broke out with the trafficker, she refused to walk out of the trafficker’s house for the next four months. In the end she succumbed because she met another Vietnamese. He told her that the only way to escape from this country was to learn Chinese, and the best way to learn was to get married. Tien accepted the suggestion and asked the trafficker to find a new husband for her.
Not a strange story
Tien ’s suffering is not unique. In some rural areas of Vietnam, disappearances like her are becoming more frequent. Many villagers believe that if a girl disappears for more than a few days, she must have reached the other side of the border.
According to official statistics from the Vietnam Police General Administration, between 2011 and 2017, there were 2,700 human trafficking cases involving nearly 6,000 victims, mainly from poor rural families, with little access to education or wealth. It is generally believed that the real numbers are far more than official statistics. Police said that in provinces near the Chinese border, the number of children selling as brides is also increasing, and more and more.
In China, among married young people, there are 34 million more men than women, which exceeds the total population of Malaysia. Based on this, some websites have introduced services for introducing foreign brides. The price of this service is usually around 10,000 yuan (1,500 US dollars).
The story behind the woman who becomes this bride is always subtle. Many people are tricked into China by false work commitments and better living conditions; others are deceived by people they trust, relatives or friends, and sometimes boyfriends who promise to marry them are sold to traffickers; some girls are Anesthetized, and then unknowingly crossed the border. They were eventually forced to marry, and some were even sold to brothels to become sex slaves.
There are also family members who hope to get a dowry to voluntarily hand over the girl to the traffickers (usually at a “lower price than buffalo”, villagers say, generally between US $ 600 and US $ 2200), but finally found that their daughter Has been kidnapped and sold.
Once these women are married, various forces will plot them to stay in China. Some people are imprisoned by their newly-wed husbands, while others dare not return to the country because of shame because they often cannot get married again after returning to the country.
30-year-old Ma Thi Mai is a Hmong woman from the poor rural town of Sa Pa in northern Vietnam. She was sold by her boyfriend. “After my husband died, a man got my phone number from an acquaintance and contacted me,” she recalled.
Soon they became obsessed with each other, or at least she thought so. In just two weeks, he took her away from home and took her to the terraces of Laojie to visit her hometown. Laojie is a border city at the junction of the two rivers, close to China. It is notorious for being a crossing point for human traffickers.
While they were crossing the river late at night on the raft, Ma Thi Mai did not know that they were entering another country. She has never been far from her hometown.
“I didn’t know that this was China until I saw people who printed signboards with strange characters and spoke in different languages,”
Mai said. “He sold me to a Chinese woman, and then that woman sold me to other men.”
Mai became a modern version of the slave. Along the way, she was sold and auctioned at least five times. If she rebelled or cried, angry men would threaten and beat her. “They sold me like selling animals,” she said.
Why are Vietnamese girls so good looking?
First thing’s first, I should say that beauty is one of those incredibly subjective topics and it varies widely across the globe. Whether you’re in Hanoi or Havana, Seoul or Sao Paulo, what’s considered “attractive” is shaped by a mosaic of factors including culture, media, and personal preference. But let’s dive in and try to unpack your question a little.
- Genetics Play a Role
All across Vietnam, you’ll find a spectrum of features that include fair skin, which has traditionally been prized as a beauty standard not just in Vietnam, but across much of Asia. This often goes hand-in-hand with a certain delicate elegance in facial structure. High cheekbones, double-lidded eyes, and straight dark hair are common genetic predispositions that align closely with both regional standards of beauty and often global ones as well.
- Influence of Diet and Lifestyle
You can’t overlook the impact of a healthy lifestyle, either. Vietnam’s diet is bursting with fresh veggies, rice, and seafood, often with a great balance of nutrients and low in unhealthy fats. Add in the fact that much of the population still engages in manual labor or at least stays active, and you’ve got a recipe for not only good health but clear skin and fit figures.
- Fashion and Aesthetic Sense
Vietnamese culture has an intrinsic sense of style and elegance. Traditional outfits like the ‘Ao Dai’ accentuate gracefulness and carry with them a certain cultural pride and aesthetic. Modern Vietnamese fashion isn’t lagging either, often being both sophisticated and contemporary, further elevating the natural beauty.
- International Recognition
Beauty pageants might be a bit outdated in some circles, but they do offer a glimpse into international beauty standards. Vietnamese women have been achieving higher ranks and receiving worldwide recognition, thereby reinforcing the idea that there’s something striking about the appearance prevalent among women in the country.
- Social and Cultural Emphasis
There’s also the high cultural value placed on aesthetic beauty. Plenty of effort is put into appearance, skincare routines are meticulous, and there’s now a booming beauty industry that supports this value system.
- Attraction is More Than Skin Deep
Remember, though, when we speak of attraction, physical appearance is just one piece of the puzzle. The attitude, demeanor, and personality of Vietnamese women often reflect resilience, intelligence, and warmth, which are just as captivating as their external beauty.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, as they say. Within Vietnam’s borders and beyond, there’s a recognition, albeit a subjective one, that Vietnamese women have a particular elegance and charm to them. Whether that aligns with your personal ideals of beauty or not is entirely your call. But now, when you ask what makes Vietnamese girls so good looking, you’ve got a blend of possible answers to ponder.
And if you happen to find yourself wandering the streets of Hanoi, take a moment to appreciate not just the visual aesthetic but the culture, history, and heart of the people. It’s often the vibrancy of the place and its people that casts everyone in their most alluring light.
Conclusion
Vietnamese women, like many Asian women, are strong at heart. We might be docile and sweet, but at the end of the day, we do anything to protect our families and environments.
For example, it’s easy to see women working in fish markets and haggling to survive. Little did we know, she is from the countryside with two young kids waiting for her. These women still worked on struggling and caring for their kids as much as possible.
I have traveled around South and Central Vietnam a few times to the North for 20 years. I am in the best position to answer the question. I have dated two generations of girls and watched how Vietnam slowly morphs into a modern yet still not modern country.
Looking for a Vietnamese girlfriend that leads to marriage? Are you determined enough? The post-war generation of Vietnamese girls and their daughters were and are good keepers, while 99.9% of the Gen Z & millennial generation of Vietnamese girls that I have interacted with are rotten apples.
“Uncle sick, Father dies, grandma needs school fees, etc., single mom, young divorcees.” Most of their families owe vast piles of debts that cannot ever be repaid. They all want to go to America, Canada, Germany, France, and Australia for a four-season lifestyle. (Getting defensive and wanting to argue? -> The 2019 Essex lorry deaths tragedy speaks for itself.)
Vietnam is a beautiful country but a complicated society for the gi,rls… well, why don’t you discover the rest yourself, and you might miraculously pick up a gem? You are welcome.
What is special about Vietnamese women?